Chapter 7: Miscarriage

Joe and I went through our first IVF embryo transfer to get pregnant in May. It was one of the most magical and emotional experiences we could have imagined. We had a successful transfer and made it to roughly 7 weeks pregnant. We saw a heartbeat. We told our parents. We cried and laughed and loved. That is why you haven’t seen me working for the last month and a half.

When we went to the doctor a week after seeing the heartbeat, the embryo had stopped growing. We miscarried. 

We were at a loss for words because the doctor told us there was nothing we could do. My placenta and uterus, and hormone levels were all high and ready to carry a baby. She explained that even with genetically tested embryos, there is still a very small chance that the embryo was not healthy. Our embryo read healthy by the genetic testing reporting standards, but there is still a miscarriage rate of 5-10% in a PGD normal pregnancy. We were the 5-10%. That is extremely hard to accept at first. We then had a D&C surgery to remove the embryo. I am just now recovering from that. Somehow though, I am not feeling pain. Confusion, yes. Pain, no.

I have told God EVERY SINGLE step of the way that I trust Him with my whole heart. And I do. He has brought light to EVERY moment of doubt or failure in our lives, and I know He won’t stop now. Joe and I have had the extreme pleasure of funding families to go through IVF through our foundation, HelpCureHD. We have heard the most inspiring and also devastating stories. My doctor that performed my D&C told me his wife miscarried four times, and they still have three healthy babies. Life is a wild ride. IVF and genetic testing are NOT perfect. But God’s timing is. We have a cloud of peace over us, knowing just that. Thank you to all of the amazing men and women who have shared with us their stories. You lift us up, and we hope to lift you up too!